Love and submission are inseparably entwined. The common teaching that husbands love and wives submit fails to understand that this is no love without submission.
Love is not self-seeking (1 Cor 13:5).When you love someone, you want what they want, more than what you want. You cannot help yourself. So when you love someone, you find yourself submitting to their will more often than to your own will. If you don’t, you probably do not love as much as you think you do.
Likewise, Christian submission is freely given out of love. Submission that is demanded by someone because they are superior or higher in the hierarchy is not true submission. True submission is a free response to love and wisdom. Demanded submission is domination.Submitting to someone who loves you is easy, because they want what is good for you. This is why it is easy to submit to Jesus.
Jesus was the wisdom (word) that was there at the beginning and created all things (John 1:1-3). He did not need anyone to tell him what to do.Yet he loved to submit to the will of the Father (John 5:19).
Love and submission are different sides of the same coin.
• You cannot truly love without submitting.
• True submission requires love.